In this 25th episode, Dr. Knabb covers relational functioning in the context of intimate relationships and marriage. Specifically, he explores the ingredients of intimate love, relationship distress, relational schemas, and strategies for improving relational struggles from the secular psychology literature. Dr. Knabb also discusses a biblical view of marriage, along with what classic Christian spiritual writings have to say about Christian love, which is foundational for Christian marriage. To end, a short contemplative practice is offered to practice God's loving presence and be a vehicle through which the fruit of the Spirit can be displayed in Christian marriage.
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